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Hi, welcome back -or welcome here! Here I am continuing a theme I've been writing on for a few months now - how to heal your inner-critic. How to change and soften that negative internal narrative, critical self-talk and beliefs that hold us back. We can't avoid pain in life but so much mental and emotional suffering comes from our relationship with ourselves, that ongoing mental conversation. If yours can be negative, critical, nasty, picking and undermining then please read

This month I want to get into nervous system regulation (which is a topic everywhere in the land of healing, wellbeing and mental health) and to share some thoughts about how it may reinforce trauma patterns and low self-worth. And my worries about it blinkering us from some of the bigger issues of our world. It might seem a bit niche as a focus, but I am genuinely concerned by some of what I see on social media and advice that I see being dished out. Why I’ve got a problem w

Throughout my years as a therapist, I have noticed that there is an additional layer of difficulty that we are often facing in the toughest moments. Life can serve up grief, stress, trauma - challenge and pain of all kinds. And on top of this, in the hardest moments, another difficulty can get layered on top - the way we speak to ourselves in our own head. I see that when we are already overloaded, the inner-critic enters. Sure, on the good days our internal voice might be p

Thoughts on vulnerability, stepping out of your comfort zone and redefining success. So, I may have mentioned I have written a book... It's a good book. I think it is a book that could help a lot of people. And create a great deal of positive change for individuals and onwards to our world. But to do that I have to get it out there. And to do that, I have to get out there. Publishers want you to have a platform. To be an expert in your field with established reach. They need

3,743 views By viral standards that's not a lot, but for me, bumbling away in my small social media community, those numbers are big and unusual. So what was it that made this particular reel connect with nearly four thousand people and prompted a fair few people to save it and to start following me? I think something about the subject landed for people and I have been reflecting on it more and more. How much I see this subject underlying the struggles that show up in my ther

Two-weeks ago I wrote a blog on what can get in the way of change - the kind of blocks we hold inside ourselves; beliefs, habits, negative inner chatter, critical loops and limiting behaviours. If you missed it then head on back to the blog menu, it is there for you. Recently, I held a Sowing the Seeds workshop online - a group of people all wanting space out of the noise and hustle of everyday life, people wanting time out to reset and tune into what they need, space for cal

In this blog (and in the one out in two weeks) I will be exploring how we go about creating meaningful change in our lives. Sowing the seeds for a healthier & more empowered life. Over two parts I am going to explore how we sow the seeds for the change we want and need - what this means and how to go about it. Many of us know we want to make changes - in our lives, in our mental health, to improve our self-worth or wellbeing this year. But it can be hard to know where to begi

In my last blog, I was talking about having been in a season of slowness due to ill health. I shared the powerful realisations I came to on how self-worth is intimately connected to the way we treat ourselves in our bad times and on the hard days. Today, I want to tell you about how this slowing down has led to an exciting time of growth and change for me and my work. Moving slow, moving with power So the exciting news.... ...I still haven't got a literary agent. And I am no

(Notes from mind control, a nightmare, thoughts on self-worth...this is my first Substack article). It’s 2.13am. I woke up from a dream where the ghost of Madonna is tormenting people, causing them to act out strange kinky scenes from her Sex Book. It manifests in my dream mind as a kind of BDSM puppet show on a global scale – Madonna a ghoulish Wizard of Oz. The dream was like an alien-mind control movie but darker (nothing Will Smith would be involved in, more Blade Runner)